Tomodachi, Amico, Mate

I just watched on Boston Legal, Denny Crane turned down a potential wife because he was not willing to move to another state, because that would have meant leaving Alan. His love for a woman was not greater than his love for his friend, a man.

I've always viewed friendship as such a sacred bond. I treat my friends like family, sometimes perhaps even better than family. It could be because I am an only child, it could be because my family are quite different from me, they are immigrants (now citizens) living in New Zealand, whereas I am a citizen born in New Zealand.

There are many people out there that have many friends. I am not one of those people. I have few friends, but those few friends are very dear to me.

To my friends out there (you know who you are and that includes you sweetie!), I love you all very much.

Stupidity is a state, not an event.

/start rant

Fact 1: I am getting older
Fact 2: I like to think that I am getting wiser
Fact 3: I like to think that I am getting more patient

Why is it that I act like some young impatient idiot when it comes to stupid people. I am so positive that it is the thing I hate most in the world. Stupid people drive me crazy, I don't know why they are stupid...but they just are.

I always question why people are stupid. Are they like that cause they were born dumb (I don't believe this). Was it because the education system failed them? (possibly). Was it because their parents failed them? (probably). Is it because they don't know they are stupid and/or they do not actively go out to improve themselves. (definitely maybe).

To recap, I really despise stupid people. I don't want to talk to them, I don't want to work with them, I almost don't have the patience to help them improve themselves. Not saying I'm the smartest guy in the world and you should all worship my awesomeness but I'm just using a highlighter pen to highlight the important parts. (although I do do stupid things...but that doesn't make me stupid..hence the title...hint..hint.)

/end rant



Light comic relief.

If you're flawless, then you'll win my love

Appearances are everything. Girls take 2 hours before they get out of the house putting on make-up, trying different clothes, trying on shoes...the shoes don't match the clothes so they have to change clothes again. Sometimes the clothes then don't match the make-up so something has to change.

Men these days are becoming more like women, we try to take care of our skin, we use pimple remover, face cleanser, and decide whether 3, 4 or 5 blades will give us a closer cleaner shave. We even allow ourselves to wear pink dress shirts.

We do this to find the perfect job, perfect partner, perfect life. But is perfect really perfect? When is perfect...not perfect?

We always talk about the perfect partner, those that know why we are sad, what they need to do to perk us up. They know our favourite foods and the little things that make us happy. But do you really want someone that knows what you are thinking all the time, someone who finishes our sentences and knows what we are going to do before we do? Wouldn't that get annoying?

The word perfect is actually a contradictory statement in itself, as there can be no such thing. Again going with the partner theory, the is no "perfect" person, they will undoubtedly have some quirks or annoyances that you don't like, that perhaps they will never change. Then you argue that that is what makes them them; that they are perfect just the way they are. So to be perfect is to be imperfect.

Just like beauty, perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Or am I making up bullshit because perfection doesn't exist.

Secretly a woman

I think I am a compulsive buyer when it comes to books.
I try to read as much as I can, but what I do read is not nearly enough as I want to.
I find I am easily distracted and tend not to read when I get the chance.
Which makes compulsive buying of books so much the worser, because the "books I have bought but yet to read" pile is getting larger and larger.
At times like these I am glad I only mostly read fantasy.
Books I have bought in the last 2 weeks...

This is my Boomstick

When kids decide what they want; whether it be food, play or any other activity, sometimes it can take a very long time. I put it down to, children do not have a deep understanding of the activities that they do. They cannot fully appreciate one activity over the other and therefore take a long time to make a decision.

You ask a child, what's your favourite toy at home and most of the time they will not be able to answer you. You will have to ask them to tell you about ONE of their favourite toys.

When adults do this, does this mean they don't have a deep understanding? If they don't, then is it presumable that they are ignorant? or could it be that they have dull senses (the 5 senses). Sometimes when you ask someone, what their favourite music is, and they will answer...'oh i like all kinds of music' or 'as long as it sounds good, I don't mind'. I find it difficult to not have a favourite music artist or favourite movie/cuisine. And because I can decide my favourite's, I can also decide on what I don't like and thus being labeled as 'picky'.

Am I really picky? or do I need to open my senses to like a wider spectrum of things.

Jack of all trades, master of none? and is it really ofttimes better than master of one?

Cleanliness is Godliness

Things...anything...we love it. We want more of it, it fills our hearts, it satisfies us...but only for a short while before we want more!

We buy so many things, from cars to books to clothes we only wear once. We like to clutter our lives with things we want, things we don't want, things we need and especially things we don't need or want. Waste not, want not?

What is it that drives us to want more things? Why do we have to follow the latest fashion, knowing that next season our clothes will be obsolete and we won't want to wear them again? Why do we buy flash new cars only for them to depreciate quicker than petrol is going up. Why do we not cook more regularly? It tastes fantastic and costs so much less.

Would any of these things matter if it did not eat into our savings? Would these things matter if there was no such thing as carbon emissions? Should these things matter? It makes us happy, it makes people next to us happy and it certainly makes retailers happy.

HULK SMASH!!!

Morality is a funny thing. What is the right thing to do?
A lot of people have their own personal morals and they try to live by them. Personal morals are very subjective, it changes from person to person. One person can believe that someone who commits repeated crimes deserves to have another chance, to always see the good in a person. Others will might believe in second chances but once they mess up again, thats it, damnation.


During my psychology classes, I got taught that beliefs do not unnecessarily predict behaviour. To put more simply that just because you think something is true or right, does not necessarily mean you will do what you think is right.

Enchante's personal moral #5: Do not be vindictive.

But what if....WHAT IF....someone infuriates me so much that I want to send them anonymous abusive emails, send some death threats that I will never follow through with. I need justice from an outside source but it will never eventuate. I would like to serve my own justice and become a vigilante but in this circumstance it conflicts with moral #5.

ARRRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!